A quote by Zig Ziglar says, Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.
With awareness, there comes the responsibility of implementation. Are you ready to do so? Let us see…
Complaining about the daily problems and difficulties has become part of our life. It may be with friends, family members, relatives or colleagues, many of the discussions start with some complaints & blames. If we do not find anything to blame then it would be the weather, infrastructure, traffic, society or system.
It’s not a wise thing to identify the problems in every object or situation and analyze it at length. But somehow, many of us are habituated with it. Knowingly or unknowingly we use it as a way to start the conversation unless we have pre-decided topic for the conversation.
Sharing problems to get suggestions is fine, as we may need help from others to get better solutions or strategies. Discussing our challenges with dear ones will make us lighter. We could get easier ways to handle the situations and learn from their experience.
What about the issues for which we are not looking for solutions, just talk for the sake of it, and the whining which we do by habit, and other blaming that does not serve anyone. Though it may help you to connect or get immediate acceptance from others, does it lifts your mood or fosters self-pity? Sometimes, it may provide a weird satisfaction that you are struggling and surviving in spite of the adversities.
Of course, we need to reduce the complaining habits and talk about the good things we see. Discussing about good things, hobbies and sports may improve our external communication as well as our internal communication ( i.e. what we say to ourselves). When we talk to others about negative topics, the words we utter and listen would make an entry to our minds. The impact may show up later by drowning us down with mental chatter. You would notice them, only if you introspect on what is happening in your mind. Otherwise, they would reflect as our emotional states like anger, fear, self- victimizing thoughts, aggression, general sadness or just feeling low.
Could we change this pattern? Could we think of the good things we have in life? How frequently would you do it? Do you consider being alive and healthy is a matter to be grateful? Is having access to food and drinking water, a reason to be thankful? Having a regular income and a home to stay could be another reason to grateful. Do you notice your body parts which are healthy and working for you without your interference and helping you to stay fit? The trees around us, clouds, rain, water bodies, electricity, gadgets, vehicles, family, people who contribute for us to have our daily food (farmer to plate), health, thinking capacity, sense organs, educational institutions, work providers, who make our clothes and other consumables we buy, sellers, banks so on and on. There is no dearth of reasons to be grateful.
It is up to us, to identify the good things we have in life and count our blessings. Instead of focusing on what we do not have, let us be happy and grateful for what we have.
- Make it a habit to count your blessings in every morning and evening.
- Write down at least three reasons on each day for which you are happy and grateful.
You would be surprised by the changes in your thought process as it starts looking for more reasons to be happy and grateful.
Wherever you are, or whatever has happened, just be glad. Be glad because you are here. You are here in a beautiful world; and all that is beautiful may be found in this world.
Just be glad, and you always will be glad. You will have better reason to be glad. You will have more and more things to make you glad. For great is the power of sunshine, especially human sunshine. It can change anything, transform anything, re-make anything, and cause anything to become as fair and beautiful as itself.
Just be glad and your fate will change; a new life will begin and a new future will dawn for you.
Source: Just Be Glad by Christian D Larson, 1912
Image: Prashanth Hegde