Conversation is so much more than words

A conversation is so much more than words: a conversation is eyes, smiles, and the silence between words.

-Annika Thor

I was reading some thoughts on how suffocated people feel with their emotions and how people are holding back their vulnerabilities to maintain the social image of a happy person.

It made me think about the simple conversations that were common in the earlier time, where people had no smartphones or headphones to get lost in their world and too busy to look at others and smile or talk.

Once upon a time, general conversations were more common on a bus, train, restaurants, bus-stop, corridors, restrooms, canteens, coffee shops, markets, grocery shops, billing queues. People had the time for a smile and little courtesy talks with neighbors, friends, and acquaintances.

With the gradual increase in smartphone usage, we could see people are talking over the phone irrespective of the location and time. While crossing the road, walking, driving, eating, working, sleeping, watching movies, television shows, playing, using washrooms, literally everywhere, people are busy talking, texting, watching, or playing on their phones.

Does the mobile usage that provides 24/7 connectivity is helping people to become closer to each other and the bonding with near & dears by keeping contact with them all the time? Helpful sometimes connect to and also drives away in different directions.

It is so common to see each one peeping into their mobile phones, televisions blurting out during dinner time. Family needs a dedicated WhatsApp group to update each other, the conversation happens on Facebook or Instagram among friends, forwarding jokes or latest wise wordings or health tips to people would be of importance than to say hello to your acquaintance while walking or in an elevator.

People have hundreds of friends and followers on social media, have the obligations to wish them, like their posts, share, comment, and maintain self-respect by posting stylish selfies from different locations and with different looks to garner more appreciation. So, no time to talk to the person who is sitting beside you!

Has it become a daunting task to lift the head away from the mobile phone and smile at the co-passenger? Forget about the strangers, applicable for the known faces at work, travel, and in the neighborhood. Would you compare the comfort of talking to a single friend, face-to-face who could understand your feeling and the context of your words, with the hundreds of acquaintances who would like your latest vacation pictures and comment on social media?

While posting stories or pictures on social media, the focus would be on making it impressive to get more likes than sharing our heartfelt feelings. So, these interactions would increase the pressure on the person than to relieve the thoughts. Another issue with the virtual world is comparison!

Watch the fantastic pictures of the happy family gatherings, new dresses, outings, picnics, newly bought stuff of others, and feel the pain of missing out on those things in life. There are enough studies conducted and published about the increased level of anxieties and depression among avid social media users.

I read a story on a networking platform where a person had posted his anguish over having hundreds of followers and friends and not getting any help from a single person when he needed it urgently and expressed it on the same social media platform. The irony, that post went viral and gathered thousands of likes, but I am not sure whether the writer got any help or a shoulder to lean on and share his pain.

It is quite common to see at home, work, or in public places when one person is speaking, another one will be staring at the mobile and nodding head. Listening skills look like the uttering of an old-fashioned person. In-thing is, screaming at the top of your voice so that people hear you and possibly give their attention by lifting their gaze from their gadgets.

Mobile phones have become almost like a body part. I wonder if it continues like this, whether the human will evolve with an attachment to hold the mobile phone? Maybe it is difficult as each one has their preferred way that may confuse the creations alter!

Let us come back to the good old conversations that could happen anywhere at any time if two are more people with open minds meet and greet each other.

It’s a high time to understand the value of heart to heart conversations that could ease our emotional loads or the casual conversations that would freshen up and put smiles back on our face or the engaging conversations which could challenge our mind and many more.

Do you agree with me on the need for conversations, or do you think I am talking about something outdated? If you find it is relevant and want to improve in that direction, here are some tips for you.

  • Restrict the use of gadgets and focus on the people around you.
  • Connect with friends, and if you have lost touch with them, your gadgets could come in handy to reach them.
  • Trust is the foundation for the heart to heart conversations.
  • It is okay to be open, vulnerable, and face the world. It makes you come out stronger than being scared and live with piled up emotions.
  • Check whether you have a minimum of 2-3 friends with whom you could blurt out.
  • Rarely, you may have a friend who mirrors your opinion in all areas of life. It is okay to have different viewpoints and still be friends.
  • It could be a different person for different areas of life, but who could understand you and listen. For example, one could understand your fitness goals, and another may understand the family issues, someone else would understand the work challenges, another one is equally crazy about your hobbies or spiritual and philosophical angles.
  • If you do not have enough friends, it is an indication for you to grow your circle. Joining a new class or starting a new hobby would make it easier to get access to new people who may become your friends.
  • Remember, both talking and listening are equally important in any conversation.
  • Good conversations could happen over discussions on the current/past situations or future of involved people.
  • These talks are not to show off who is better, to lend ears to others, or share your mind. It may give solutions to your problem or make you lighter after letting out what was weighing you down.
  • Though the conversations are better when it is face to face, it could be equally worth on a voice or video call if the person is away from you. It may be a challenge to convey the context, still better to have it than holding up the emotions.
  • Conversations at home are also equally important, and they could be handy in eliminating the invisible layers among family members that may hold them away from each other.

Let there be more and more open conversations among people so that they could resolve many conflicts, relieve tensions, reduce loneliness, improve bonding, and lift our spirit.

—Anitha KC

Images: pixabay, google images

5 thoughts on “Conversation is so much more than words

Add yours

  1. Correct. Very nice to read. I recall my old days conversations. Want to add one point here, now a days All face to face communication are commercialised. For example, network marketing, only make friends for personal benefits, so on. My point is we have to drive as society but will not hamper the relationship.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for your views. Even I felt that open conversations have become rare, most of them are based on some tasks/intention in the background. But simple conversations could bring people closer to each other and reduce conflicting situations too.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Create a website or blog at

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: