How to get rid of self-doubt?

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” 

― Suzy Kassem

Rita wants to enroll in a dance class. Now, she is in her late thirties and thinks about whether she can learn to dance at this age. Rocky is interested in starting a new venture that suits his passion and doubts about whether it is wise to do so and feels like continuing in the current job. Lata is keen on shifting to a different location, not sure whether she can get adjusted. Vinu wants to relocate to a foreign country with his new dream, worrying whether he could handle the responsibilities that come along. Shekar is getting a big contract and wonders whether he should take it up.

Like this, many of us want to do something we like, capable of doing it, provided we focus on it wholeheartedly. Somehow, we tend to worry more about the adverse outcomes, possibilities, and changes that may come with new tasks and responsibilities. So we are likely to get started with the new venture along with self-doubt. If you are going ahead with the doubt that keeps reminding you, it could pull you down from doing what you need to do or may not take you to the level you desire.

Is it wrong to think about the risks to be handled, obstacles that we may meet on the way, challenges that come in our path? It is okay to think about real risks and find feasible mitigation plans. But if these thoughts are pulling us down to worry, anxiety, and procrastination, then it’s time to get away from all and get started with concrete actions.

All the strategies and plans would go waste unless we take action on things we need to do.

Let’s get started; what is your goal or target that you want to reach? Is it about a fitness plan, start a blog, join a class, relocating to a new place, change the job, how to raise kids, work on your career, or any other thing?

  • Note down the goal which you want to achieve and have self-doubt to get started with it.
  • Imagine if you succeed in achieving and how do you feel at the end. Do you stand there with pride? Whether that experience is exhilarating and could motivate you to get started? If not, you may have to look for something else which matters to you.*
  • Do your SWOT analysis (Strength, Weakness, Opportunities, and Threats). Focus on your strength & opportunities and think about your goal. Does it suit your skills and interests? Do you need to explore other things before deciding?
  • Give a pep talk yourself to replace the doubtful chatter inside or talk to a well-wisher who could do it for you.
  • When you have the clarity and the commitment to start, list down the actions, and get started.
  • There is no perfect time. Procrastinating for the right time, place, condition would take us nowhere. Action, action, and action in the right direction is the way to go.
  • Be ready, get up, get started, and march towards your goal. Do whatever it takes and ensure that your values and ethics are intact.

—Anitha KC

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*Note:

As Anthony Robbins mentions in Unlimited Power: Do you know any person who has achieved massive success by doing what he hates? I don’t.
If you want to achieve success in your new hobby or a work or a new class that you have joined, that should be closer to your values, interests, and desires. If the reason to start is due to external ones like trends, friends, celebrity influence, or someone you know is doing, you may not be able to give W.I.T. ( Whatever it takes!)

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  1. As always … relatable and so true! The real difference between an entrepreneur and a regular Joe is their ability to act on an idea knowing the risks involved!

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